Living Authentically

“The lies most devastating to our self-esteem are no so much the lies we tell as the lies we live.” I am living a lie when: I pretend a love I do not feel I pretend an indifference I do not feel I laugh when I need to cry I spend unnecessary stretches of timeContinue reading “Living Authentically”

Cognitive Restructuring – Common Thought Errors that Lead to Depression and Anxiety

Sometimes, we allow ourselves to think in ways that lead us down paths of destruction. Common errors in thought processes can lead to a number of negative symptoms; most notably anxiety and depression! Disqualifying the Positive – Discounting the good things that have occurred in your life or that you’ve accomplished, saying “that doesn’t count.”Continue reading “Cognitive Restructuring – Common Thought Errors that Lead to Depression and Anxiety”

How to Deal With People Who Drain Your Energy

Stop feeling depleted every time you interact with an energy vampire Let’s eavesdrop on a conversation with an energy vampire. THEM: They insist that you invest your energy in their cause, and their cause always seems hopeless – or it’s just not your cause. YOU: To avoid being rude, you accept their agenda. Now yourContinue reading “How to Deal With People Who Drain Your Energy”

What Forgiveness is, Really.

The idea of forgiveness is a common misconception amongst a number of my students and clients. When I mention the word “forgiveness” in response to a client’s experience of a particularly nasty betrayal, I’m frequently either laughed at or met with irritability. The thing is, forgiveness is not dropping the subject and never broaching itContinue reading “What Forgiveness is, Really.”

What is the “Right Age” for Kids to Use Social Media?

5 rules for teaching young people use technology with dignity and respect What is the “right” age for youngsters to begin texting and using social media? As the Mom of two young daughters and an educator on bullying prevention, I field this question frequently. Truly, there is great debate on the subject among professionals, alongContinue reading “What is the “Right Age” for Kids to Use Social Media?”

6 Biases That May Sub-Consciously Affect Your Thinking

Biases can creep into our thoughts by stealth, sometimes triggered by others. How many passengers do you think New York’s LaGuardia Airport served last year?  Would you say the count is more or less than 10 million?  Make your best guess, and I’ll give you the answer at the end of this article. Biases areContinue reading “6 Biases That May Sub-Consciously Affect Your Thinking”

Older Parenting: A Modern Day Fountain of Youth

Is older parenting worth it? YES! Fathering in Your 50s: Is There a Difference? My first psychology professor was Dr. Dick Bruce. He told a marvelous story about his family during Psych 100: When home for the holidays, one of his siblings complained that earning a Ph.D. seemed an impossible goal. The degree would takeContinue reading “Older Parenting: A Modern Day Fountain of Youth”

How to Make Peace With Something You Cannot Control

Feeling safe when you’re not in control is a valuable skill Source: ibreakstock/Shutterstock Being in control feels safe, you can feel safe when you’re not in control too. The world is unpredictable and your power is limited, so feeling safe without control is a valuable skill. When the world disappoints your expectations, your brain releasesContinue reading “How to Make Peace With Something You Cannot Control”

Ten Kid-Friendly Rules for Texting With Respect and Dignity

How to talk with kids about netiquette and cyberbullying prevention As a School Counselor and educator on the subject of Bullying Prevention, one of the most commonly asked questions I receive is, “What is the “right” age for youngsters to begin texting and using social media?” As with most aspects of child-rearing, there isn’t aContinue reading “Ten Kid-Friendly Rules for Texting With Respect and Dignity”

My Brain Made Me Do It! Neuroscience for Kids Who Need It

How the basics of brain science can help kids change troubled behaviors Several weeks ago, I was sitting in the hallway of my school building talking with a student who was feeling distraught after her involvement in a heated conflict with several classmates.  The young girl had lashed out verbally at a group of studentsContinue reading “My Brain Made Me Do It! Neuroscience for Kids Who Need It”