Amplify! Blog Guest Writer – Monique Farook; Host of Infertility and Me podcast
*Listen to Monique on The Perinatal Podcast – 043 Infertility and Me Podcast Crossover*
Infertility is an invisible pain that affects countless individuals and couples globally, 1 in 6.
Reflecting on my path to becoming a mom, I contemplate how my husband and I will tell our
son about his conception. I observe other families and pregnant individuals while out and about, wondering about their own stories of how they arrived at their current situation.
I vividly recall feeling invisible after my infertile diagnosis of right tubal blockage. Unless I were to explicitly share my story, no one would know my struggles to conceive. The grief and
acceptance that my body was not cooperating as intended. Healing is ongoing, and infertility is not just a physical or medical issue but also an emotional and psychological one
The emotional aspect of infertility is profoundly debilitating. It is rooted in sadness, grief,
frustration, disappointment, and overwhelm. These emotions are not limited to fertility battles but also pre-existing mental health issues or disorders. Individuals often enter the familybuilding journey with hope, only to be confronted with the harsh reality of how difficult it truly is. This realization can lead to deep depression and sadness.
It can be particularly challenging for individuals or couples who walk away childless after years of trying. Unlike other physical ailments or conditions, infertility does not manifest itself in visible symptoms. Infertility remains hidden from the world unless scars from procedures or surgeries are visible. There are no outward signs that someone is struggling with infertility, making it difficult for others to understand the pain and challenges that someone faces.
Furthermore, the stigma and shame associated with infertility contribute to its invisibility.
Society often pressures women and expects them to conform to patriarchal ideals, never meant to empower them. This strain can make it more challenging for individuals to openly discuss their struggles with infertility. There is a lot of work to be done in terms of society’s understanding surrounding infertility.
The taboo nature of family-building efforts also affects those in the LGBTQIA+ community who wish to realize their dreams of parenthood. Further perpetuating the invisibility of social fertility struggles. Despite the increase in online discussions, there is still a lack of awareness, and breaking down the stigma is far from over.
In conclusion, sharing personal experiences and reflections encourages open conversations,
understanding, education, and empathy to create a more supportive environment for those facing this invisible pain.
-Monique Farook
Find Monique!
Instagram: @FertilityAndMePodcast
Website: LinkTree
Podcast: Apple Podcasts
Many thanks to Monique for sharing your intellectual and emotional labor with the Amplify Wellness Crew! -Meg
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