Trigger Warning

Trigger warning, mention of pregnancy loss.
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One year ago today, after we had graduated from our fertility doctor to a general obstetrician, after weeks of scans because of a tiny little sac but a perfect and strong heartbeat, we found out we lost our sweet Baby B.
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I knew Veterans Day was the day it happened, so I knew today was coming. I decided the best thing for me to do was to watch the video (which I was filming when she said, “I’m not seeing a heartbeat, so I got to literally relive the exact moment) and the photos, experience my feelings, then get on with my day.
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I’m not going to judge myself and tell myself I “should” or “shouldn’t” think or feel a certain way. I’m going to allow the thoughts to come and go.
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It’s tough, these anniversaries, but I’m going to do what I can to allow myself to experience the memory, the sadness, the loss of a dream, as well as allow those who have reached out to be a part of my healing journey.
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I share my story so others can feel supported in experiencing their feelings as they see fit for them. Be vocal, or don’t. Share about it, or don’t. Do you.
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A friend sent me this today, and I love the symbolism: Grief is a garden where you can go and spend time with your loved one when you need it. It’s always there to visit.
I voted! And also now have my new favorite pen.

Have your voice be heard, exercise your right to vote!
New content being recorded for #LetsDiscussWithMeg! I have my first two guests scheduled to record next week – this thing really has some legs!

Let’s go, family! What topics are you hoping to hear discussed on the show? Drop a note in the comments and let me know!

TW: Mention of pregnancy loss
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Yesterday was tough. I jump into Timehop, one of my favorite things to do each day, and was reminded a year ago yesterday was when we found out our pregnancy was multiples. Twins! We were SHOCKED. I even said during the scan, “See, and you were afraid it was going to be twins.” And the sonogram tech said, “Wellllll…”
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We were so floored and had in no way felt prepared for twins, and yet, after the shock wore off, we were so excited. Thrilled! We later lost Baby B after a few weeks of many scans, seeing a strong heartbeat, googling twins bassinets and strollers for 3 kiddos, picking names, all that. So when this popped up yesterday – 10/26 was not a date I had committed to memory – it shook me.
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I’m grateful to friends and loved ones to answered my texts and offered words of support. The grief we experience doesn’t go away, but it is comforting to have that support. I thank each and every one of you who has shown up for me in some way, and I remain grateful for the sweet blessings I have here on earth.
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If you are struggling with your grief and loss, please know there are people who care and would love to be of help and support to you. Grief has no time frame, and you certainly do not have to walk this journey alone.

I love this! From my Be Strong Thoughtfulls today, big fan of not letting others’ drama get in my way!
A beautiful Kansas sunrise!
Can I get an amen up in here?? Since I finished Whitney Cummings’ “I’m fine… and other lies,” I make it a goal to say, “I don’t know” or seek more info in every conversation, where appropriate. Obviously, don’t dumb yourself down, but yes – let’s all care more about learning than our ego!

TW: mention of infant and pregnancy loss
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This day is always hard for a lot of us every year. As are a lot of days that don’t get their own hashtag.
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Losing a pregnancy (or 3) is so difficult and deeply personal, but I share every year and as often as I can to decrease the stigma. You are not alone, and you do not have to suffer in silence.