What arouses people sexually can be along a very wide spectrum. The fact that there is something to turn you on is not a bad thing. Best of all situations can be when couples learn to turn each other on and use these activators as a way to stimulate, enhance, and evolve the relationship. This may not be something you feel you can share with your partner, if there is ever an opportunity or a possibility that you could—that would be the best. Then it moves the fetish from something that feels like it has to be kept a secret into something that can be used for reciprocal pleasure.
On the other side of the coin is knowing how to use this activation with your partner in a more subtle way. The point is don’t turn this into something bad if there is a way it can be used to enhance the relationship sexually.
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