The 3 Most Dangerous Things to Say in a Relationship

-Harriet Pappenheim, LCSW Almost every relationship article mentions the Big C: Communication. But what if your words are doing more harm than good? Language is a powerful force, and what you say to your partner on impulse could be doing a great deal of damage. Here are the top three most dangerous phrases to let slipContinue reading “The 3 Most Dangerous Things to Say in a Relationship”

Sharing Good News Boosts Health and Happiness

-Janice Wood A new study finds that supportive, responsive partners provide a buffer to loneliness and sleep deficits among military couples. Better sleep, communication, and emotional support are key to better overall health and to being successful in the workplace, according to the research, which was presented at the 2017 Society for Personality and SocialContinue reading “Sharing Good News Boosts Health and Happiness”

The Four Horsemen

-The Gottman Institute Today on The Gottman Relationship Blog, we would like to continue The Four Horsemen series by providing you with a strong foundation of understanding before we go into further depth about each specific communication style. Consider today’s posting an overview of what is to come over the next four weeks. The Four Horsemen ofContinue reading “The Four Horsemen”

The Curse of Counter-Dependence

-Jonice Webb, PhD Sophie was excited about her new position. Finally she would have the opportunity to use the marketing skills she had learned in her MBA program. But in the first week, it was clear to Sophie that she was somewhat over her head. With multiple demands coming at her from every direction, sheContinue reading “The Curse of Counter-Dependence”

Resentment Can Damage Marriage Even More Than Cheating

-Leslie Doares It just eats everything away… Infidelity is the worst thing that can happen in a marriage, right? Think again. While cheating is a devastating betrayal, the MOST damaging thing you can do in your marriage is to give in when you don’t really want to. 7 Last-Ditch Ways To Save Your Marriage (WhenContinue reading “Resentment Can Damage Marriage Even More Than Cheating”

5 Crucial Reasons You Should Talk More

Have you ever been sitting on a subway or plane and felt annoyed because the person next to you keeps trying to chat and chat and chat? One thing we know about human nature is that there are introverts and extroverts in this world, and everyone falls somewhere on that continuum. Some people seem toContinue reading “5 Crucial Reasons You Should Talk More”

Think You’re a Good Listener? Prove it

-Holly Brown, LMFT Rosh Hashanah is the Jewish New Year, and this week I had the pleasure of attending Rosh Hashanah services and hearing a sermon on the value of listening. As a therapist, I listen for a living. But in my personal life, sometimes I can be a little lax. I imagine that’s trueContinue reading “Think You’re a Good Listener? Prove it”

3 Types of Parents Who Get Bullied By Their Own Children

…and some expert advice on stopping the cycle. Susan Newman, PhD Parents often make excuses for their children’s outrageous behavior, whether it’s a preschooler’s tantrum or a teen’s sullen refusal to do what he or she has been asked. Children who become unmanageable or verbally abusive to their parents are, in fact, bullies, although mostContinue reading “3 Types of Parents Who Get Bullied By Their Own Children”

15 Kinds of Verbal Abuse

The abuser feels more powerful when he puts down his victim. Berit Brogarrd D.M.Sci, Ph.D In general, if we look at verbal abuse as a means of maintaining control and Power Over, then in this context all of the categories of verbal abuse listed and explained below make some kind of sense because they areContinue reading “15 Kinds of Verbal Abuse”

Facial Characteristics May Influence Perception of Honesty

-Rick Nauert, PhD Can you look at someone and tell if they are honest? Many of us believe we can and a new Canadian study explains why we have this perception (accurate or not). Researchers determined that certain facial features, not the expression, influence whether people think someone is trustworthy. That is, some people mayContinue reading “Facial Characteristics May Influence Perception of Honesty”