5 Tips for Reading People More Accurately

Mistakes to avoid when reading other people. See which of these common errors you make so you can begin to read people more accurately. 1.  What causes others’ behavior?  Situations or personality? When we see a snapshot of someone’s behavior we often jump to the conclusion that they’re acting based on their personality.  In contrast, when we think about ourContinue reading “5 Tips for Reading People More Accurately”

Self-esteem v. Self-compassion

High self-esteem does not predict better performance or greater success. And though people with high self-esteem do think they’re more successful, objectively, they are not. High self-esteem does not make you a more effective leader, a more appealing lover, more likely to lead a healthy lifestyle, or more attractive and compelling in an interview. AContinue reading “Self-esteem v. Self-compassion”

3 Tips to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great

Good marriages are healthy marriages. They’re built on a foundation of love, trust, safety, commitment and respect. Great marriages have these elements, too. But they go further. Below, John Harrison, LPCC, a counselor and coach who specializes in working with couples, shares three ways to transform a good marriage into a great one. His tipsContinue reading “3 Tips to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great”

Minimizing Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is like brain washing in that it systematically wears away at the victim’s self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their own perceptions, and self-concept. Whether it is done by constant berating and belittling, by intimidation, or under the guise of “guidance,” “teaching”, or “advice,” the results are similar. Eventually, the recipient of theContinue reading “Minimizing Emotional Abuse”

Stress Check-In

“Stress is not what happens to us. It’s our response TO what happens. And RESPONSE is something we can choose.” – Maureen Killoran Everyone experiences stress sometimes. It can sometimes feel like there’s nothing that can be done about stress, but you have more control than you might think. As much as we’d probably likeContinue reading “Stress Check-In”

Looking at Relationships After Abuse

It is not necessary that we go looking for the person that we would want to have in our life forever. I don’t think that we need to look at another person and question in our minds whether this is “the one.” It may be better to look at life and meeting new people asContinue reading “Looking at Relationships After Abuse”

Sexual Fetish with a Partner

What arouses people sexually can be along a very wide spectrum. The fact that there is something to turn you on is not a bad thing. Best of all situations can be when couples learn to turn each other on and use these activators as a way to stimulate, enhance, and evolve the relationship. ThisContinue reading “Sexual Fetish with a Partner”

Stress Reduction using Mind/Body Exercise

Please feel free to adapt the following exercise in any way that feels comfortable for you. Find a quiet place where you wont be disturbed and make yourself comfortable. Sitting is better than lying down so you dont get too comfortable and fall asleep. Place your hands gently on your lap, uncross your legs. StartingContinue reading “Stress Reduction using Mind/Body Exercise”

Confusing Non-Verbal Signals

Use nonverbal signals that match up with your words. Nonverbal communication should reinforce what is being said, not contradict it. If you say one thing, but your body language says something else, your listener will likely feel you’re being dishonest or the emotion is not very intense for you. For example, you saying “yes” whileContinue reading “Confusing Non-Verbal Signals”