What to Do About Your Teenager’s “Eye-roll”

Teenagers are geniuses at doing things they know will irritate you What to Do About Your Teenager’s “Eye-roll” If you are or have been the parent of a teenager, or have ever spent more than a few hours with a teenager, especially when they are around their friends or parents, you are unfortunately familiar withContinue reading “What to Do About Your Teenager’s “Eye-roll””

Parenting: Alternatives to “No”

I once watched an episode of Modern Family where Cameron and Mitchell insisted no one, including themselves, tell their kiddo, Lily, “no.” Claire, Lily’s aunt, wants to punish Lily for flicking lights on and off in Claire’s home, leading to an argument about the differences in Claire’s and Cameron’s (and Mitchell’s) parenting techniques. Cam getsContinue reading “Parenting: Alternatives to “No””

Living Authentically

“The lies most devastating to our self-esteem are no so much the lies we tell as the lies we live.” I am living a lie when: I pretend a love I do not feel I pretend an indifference I do not feel I laugh when I need to cry I spend unnecessary stretches of timeContinue reading “Living Authentically”

Cognitive Restructuring – Common Thought Errors that Lead to Depression and Anxiety

Sometimes, we allow ourselves to think in ways that lead us down paths of destruction. Common errors in thought processes can lead to a number of negative symptoms; most notably anxiety and depression! Disqualifying the Positive – Discounting the good things that have occurred in your life or that you’ve accomplished, saying “that doesn’t count.”Continue reading “Cognitive Restructuring – Common Thought Errors that Lead to Depression and Anxiety”

How to Deal With People Who Drain Your Energy

Stop feeling depleted every time you interact with an energy vampire Let’s eavesdrop on a conversation with an energy vampire. THEM: They insist that you invest your energy in their cause, and their cause always seems hopeless – or it’s just not your cause. YOU: To avoid being rude, you accept their agenda. Now yourContinue reading “How to Deal With People Who Drain Your Energy”

What Forgiveness is, Really.

The idea of forgiveness is a common misconception amongst a number of my students and clients. When I mention the word “forgiveness” in response to a client’s experience of a particularly nasty betrayal, I’m frequently either laughed at or met with irritability. The thing is, forgiveness is not dropping the subject and never broaching itContinue reading “What Forgiveness is, Really.”

What is the “Right Age” for Kids to Use Social Media?

5 rules for teaching young people use technology with dignity and respect What is the “right” age for youngsters to begin texting and using social media? As the Mom of two young daughters and an educator on bullying prevention, I field this question frequently. Truly, there is great debate on the subject among professionals, alongContinue reading “What is the “Right Age” for Kids to Use Social Media?”

Why Men Don’t Tell

Many men cope with being abused by taking on a macho “I can handle it” attitude. Even if you have been hurt much worse than on an athletic playing field, that is not the same thing as being physically attacked by your intimate partner, which hurts emotionally as well as physically. Allowing this pattern toContinue reading “Why Men Don’t Tell”

If You Don’t Have a Father Today…

Maybe you don’t have a dad to meet with today. It’s your day, too. Maybe you don’t have a father anymore, or feel like you never did. Maybe you never knew him, or maybe he was never around enough to know – emotionally, mentally, or spiritually – even if he was often physically in theContinue reading “If You Don’t Have a Father Today…”

How to Make Peace With Something You Cannot Control

Feeling safe when you’re not in control is a valuable skill Source: ibreakstock/Shutterstock Being in control feels safe, you can feel safe when you’re not in control too. The world is unpredictable and your power is limited, so feeling safe without control is a valuable skill. When the world disappoints your expectations, your brain releasesContinue reading “How to Make Peace With Something You Cannot Control”