121 Things Narcissists Say When They Are Gaslighting You

-Awan **TRIGGER WARNING: These are statements made by actual narcissists that were shared by actual survivors of narcissistic abuse. If you’ve ever been involved in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, the following statements may sound pretty familiar to you. I polled the members of my online support group (SPAN) and asked them to share thingsContinue reading “121 Things Narcissists Say When They Are Gaslighting You”

Are you the Designated Scapegoat?

-Sharie Stines, PhD When two people get married I don’t think either one of them plans on becoming their partner’s scapegoat. Most people assume that there will be both good times and bad times, and they will persevere through any problems together.  This is reasonable; after all, no one is perfect and life can have challenges at times.Continue reading “Are you the Designated Scapegoat?”

15 Kinds of Verbal Abuse

The abuser feels more powerful when he puts down his victim. Berit Brogarrd D.M.Sci, Ph.D In general, if we look at verbal abuse as a means of maintaining control and Power Over, then in this context all of the categories of verbal abuse listed and explained below make some kind of sense because they areContinue reading “15 Kinds of Verbal Abuse”

How to Recognize the Signs of Posttraumatic Stress (PTSD)

Posttraumatic stress, or PTSD as it is more commonly referred to, is a serious condition that affects many people worldwide. As June is PTSD Awareness Month, learning more about this condition can be helpful in order to gain a better understanding of the struggles that many individuals deal with on a daily basis. Although PTSDContinue reading “How to Recognize the Signs of Posttraumatic Stress (PTSD)”

Talking Out Military Sexual Trauma

Sexual abuse led one vet to a VA career counseling other MSA victims.             Jennifer Sluga,  six-year veteran of the Wisconsin National Guard, originally participated in the VA’s new oral history program to help her caregivers understand her military sexual trauma, but her ordeal made her a strong advocate for others who had been assaulted.Continue reading “Talking Out Military Sexual Trauma”

Minimizing Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is like brain washing in that it systematically wears away at the victim’s self-confidence, sense of self-worth, trust in their own perceptions, and self-concept. Whether it is done by constant berating and belittling, by intimidation, or under the guise of “guidance,” “teaching”, or “advice,” the results are similar. Eventually, the recipient of theContinue reading “Minimizing Emotional Abuse”

Looking at Relationships After Abuse

It is not necessary that we go looking for the person that we would want to have in our life forever. I don’t think that we need to look at another person and question in our minds whether this is “the one.” It may be better to look at life and meeting new people asContinue reading “Looking at Relationships After Abuse”

What is the “Right Age” for Kids to Use Social Media?

5 rules for teaching young people use technology with dignity and respect What is the “right” age for youngsters to begin texting and using social media? As the Mom of two young daughters and an educator on bullying prevention, I field this question frequently. Truly, there is great debate on the subject among professionals, alongContinue reading “What is the “Right Age” for Kids to Use Social Media?”

Why Men Don’t Tell

Many men cope with being abused by taking on a macho “I can handle it” attitude. Even if you have been hurt much worse than on an athletic playing field, that is not the same thing as being physically attacked by your intimate partner, which hurts emotionally as well as physically. Allowing this pattern toContinue reading “Why Men Don’t Tell”

Margaret Cho Wants You to Embrace Your Darkness

Using creativity to cope and connect Margaret Cho has been finding ways to entertain us for decades. From her stand-up routines, such as The Notorious C.H.O.; to her books, such as I’m The One That I Want; to her roles in films such as Face/Off, Cho continues to come up with new ways to exploreContinue reading “Margaret Cho Wants You to Embrace Your Darkness”