Category Archives: Relationships

7 Phrases That Will Help You Get Over a Breakup

-Jen Kim How to want to get over a breakup, part II: Say these things out loud. Repeat. Heal. Part of me can hardly remember the pain and agony that I suffered during my worst breakup. It’s only now that my best friend and I can finally giggle about our outrageous grieving mechanisms and theContinue reading “7 Phrases That Will Help You Get Over a Breakup”

How to Want to Get Over a Breakup

-Jen Kim Cry. Wallow. Repeat. Now, change your life. Before I even begin to address this topic, I should tell you that there are more than 3.19 million results for this search, according to Google–and a lot of them are written by psychological professionals, not valley girls with alleged brains. I’ve read multiple help guides,Continue reading “How to Want to Get Over a Breakup”

4 Keys to Leaving a Bad Relationship

-Craig Malkin, PhD Narcissists, even abuse ones, can be hard to leave. Here’s why – and what to do. The more time we spend with people, the more they literally become a part of us. We think of ourselves, often, not just as individuals, but one point in a vast network of human connections: I’mContinue reading “4 Keys to Leaving a Bad Relationship”

Is Your Intimate Partner Doing This Manipulative Behavior?

-Jeffrey Bernstein, PhD This is one game that makes you both losers in the game of love! Pete and Laurie  (names changed to protect confidentiality) were counseling clients of mine who were “Head Game Gamblers,” a destructive behavior I describe in my book, Why Can’t You Read My Mind? In their early dating days, for example, Joe would deliberately makeContinue reading “Is Your Intimate Partner Doing This Manipulative Behavior?”

Perception of Physical Attractiveness Influenced by Relationship Status

-Rick Nauert, PhD New research suggests opposites do attract, that is, unless you are in a relationship. Specifically, if you are in a relationship you are more likely to be attracted to faces resembling your own, but for single people, opposites attract. In the study, Dr Jitka Lindová of Charles University in the Czech RepublicContinue reading “Perception of Physical Attractiveness Influenced by Relationship Status”

5 Tips for Reading People More Accurately

Mistakes to avoid when reading other people. See which of these common errors you make so you can begin to read people more accurately. 1.  What causes others’ behavior?  Situations or personality? When we see a snapshot of someone’s behavior we often jump to the conclusion that they’re acting based on their personality.  In contrast, when we think about ourContinue reading “5 Tips for Reading People More Accurately”

How to Forgive

Now that we’ve established What Forgiveness is, Really, let’s talk about how one can move toward accomplishing such a cumbersome task. Once we have realized how beneficial the act of letting someone off the hook can be, what’s next? How do we make movement in the direction of truly letting go of the negative emotionsContinue reading “How to Forgive”

How to Stop Passing Unfairness to Your Partner

You will do unto others the unfairness that is done to you…unless you do this Once upon a time, my wife backed out of a parking space at a big box store. . . directly into the passenger-side door of a car behind her. She stepped out to fess up and apologize, but was metContinue reading “How to Stop Passing Unfairness to Your Partner”

Do You (or Your Partner) Always Need to Have the Last Word?

The last word may not always be the best word when you argue with your partner. Whether it’s in an angry exchange of text messages, a face-to-face dispute, or a shouting match over the phone, it’s natural to want to be the one who gets in that last, definitive word. However, during the heat ofContinue reading “Do You (or Your Partner) Always Need to Have the Last Word?”

3 Tips to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great

Good marriages are healthy marriages. They’re built on a foundation of love, trust, safety, commitment and respect. Great marriages have these elements, too. But they go further. Below, John Harrison, LPCC, a counselor and coach who specializes in working with couples, shares three ways to transform a good marriage into a great one. His tipsContinue reading “3 Tips to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great”